If if you’re mainly looking for a shoe that feels good while riding, I can recommend the Shimano RX8. I had quite a few gravel shoes but I like this one best. It comes in a wide version which I find very comfy. It’s light. And the sole is super stiff which I love for its ride feel as it doesn’t feel less efficient than a good road shoe. BUT: They’re not super comfy to walk in. Also, there’s not a huge amount of rubber sole on the heel so I’d be worried to wear it out quickly when doing a lot of walking.
For my use case (touring / Audax events / bikepacking) they’re the best I ever had.
Oh, and they did take some wearing in for me. But once that’s over, they feel like a glove.