Just to update here, I've ordered all the parts (and some others too) and will start a new thread here for the build itself when things arrive.

I‘m no expert but prices seem quite high, I got some of the parts for less. Doing research could safe you some money. Also the wheels seem expensive for the weight. I suppose you should be able to get cheaper and equal quality for sub 600€.

I’m doing a build with similar components and will be targeting 1800€.

Lastly haven’t seen a gravel build sub 8kg yet. I would suppose you would have to buy different components. Around 8 plus should be possible. I’m at 8,35kg (calculated) and my wheels are already 200g lighter

That’s exactly why I was asking for advice. Which components did you choose then?

I am just about to start my first gravel bike build and have the following in my plan. What do you think, are these reasonable and would you change something here?

Frameset:
Ican Graro (EU warehouse)
https://icancycling.com/collections/carbon-frame-eu/products/graro-eu
- Includes seatpost and fork
- 828€
- 1560g

Wheels:
Ican G25 (EU warehouse)
https://icancycling.com/en-nl/collections/gravel-wheels-eu/products/700c-g25-gravel-wheels-eu
- 709€
- 1510g

Groupset:
Wheeltop GeX with carbon levers
https://wheeltop.com/products/wheel-top-eds-gex
- 599€
- 960g

Handlebars:
Ican HBG01 integrated
https://icancycling.com/collections/handlebar/products/hbg01
- 182€
- 450g

Crankset:
RaceWork including BB
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/1005006794337930.html
- 150€
- 625g

Cassette:
ZTTO 10-44t
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/1005006352923823.html
- 88€
- 333g

Tires:
Specialized Pathfinder 42
https://www.all4cycling.com/en/products/copertoncino-specialized-pathfinder-pro-2bliss-ready-700x42-nero-para
- 90€
- 1100g

Pedals:
RaceWork SPD pedals
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/1005005931515865.html
- 25€
- 348g

Saddle:
Ryet 3D
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/1005006678046650.html
- 40€
- 160g

Brake discs:
Cheapo and light (Trace Velo recommendation)
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/32878710242.html
- 11€
- 140g

Computer mount:
Cheap carbon
https://www.aliexpress.com/item/1005006947196557.html
- 10€
- 20g

All of this should come up to about 2724€ and 7206g.

Missing still is a chain (perhaps 250g and 40€?), bar tape (70g and 10€?) and the tire sealant (100g and 20€?).

Would you choose the same parts and if not, what would you change? Am I missing something obvious? My wish is to have the whole bike under 8kg and under 3000€.

EDIT: I have also reached out to Lightcarbon about their new LCG087-D which looks extremely interesting, but since there's no pricing publicly available I'm not sure if it is a viable alternative.