The steep seat tube, high-stack thing isn't / shouldn't be for performance drop-bar bikes. Yeah, it's a minority opinion that only really gets heard by the designers who make WT-spec race bikes, who are now starting to lower stacks again. /rant
The problem is that you are using stack and reach to solve a problem that sounds like it's actually a saddle-to-bar distance (resolved to X, Y components) problem. One of the assumptions of the church of stack and reach is that your pedaling position is fixed and optimized. Because these new geometries intentionally shift your pedaling position, using stack and reach to translate your fit won't work. I would recommend going back to the basics and refitting accordingly.
If I remember correctly, you are slightly between sizes. I suspect refitting will lead you to the bigger size, but then the issue might be that you can't get low enough, so you need to look at a brand with more aggressive geometry, and we can rant together.