SP cycle R025-SL
Yishun R1018 (monocoque)
Velobuild 177 (questionable 32C clerance, old vs others
Lightcycle 17D (bus shaped downtube)
Those are the lightest on my short list. I really like the R025-SL, but it only takes 30C.
I think the SL8 looks very forgettable, and the aethos looks even worse to me. Some frame designs look timeless to me. Not these 2.
I'm over 80kg, too, i dont think i should be riding an aethos, i dont think anyone is claiming it's stiff.